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Coping With Your Emotions: The Best Prescription Is Knowledge

Joanie Manzo, R.N., B.S.N., Blogs, 0 comments
October 14, 2015


Nearly 14.5 million Americans alive today have faced a diagnosis of cancer. Some of them have just been diagnosed or are going through treatment, while others no longer have active symptoms of cancer or are thought to be cured.

Everyone has their own way of coping with cancer. Anxiety (a feeling of worry or unease), fear, uncertainty, anger, and sadness are common feelings that patients and families sometimes have when coping with cancer. They are normal responses to the many stresses of cancer.

You may have trouble with your family duties and the lost of control over events in your life. Changes in the way you look, or simply the shock of finding out you have cancer might lead to feelings of fear or anxiety. Many people feel uncertain about the future and worry about suffering, pain, and the unknown.

It’s normal to mourn changes in your body and maybe losing the healthy future you wanted. Fears about loss of independence, changes in relationships, and being a burden to others can be too much to with with all at once.

Family members may have these feels because they too are uncertain about the future or maybe even angry that their loved one has cancer. They may feel guilty and frustrated at not being able to “do enough” as they care for the patient and family. Or it may seem like it’s too much to do everything they now have to do. Many caregivers feel stressed trying to balance work, child care, self-care, and other tasks. All of this is on top of having to worry about and take care of the person with cancer.

Sometimes, a person with cancer may become overly anxious, fearful or depressed, and may no longer cope well with day-to-day life. If this happens, it often helps the patient and family to get help from a mental health therapist or counselor.

What to look for.

  • Feeling anxious, swamped, or overwhelmed
  • Trouble thinking, solving problems, or making decisions (even about little things)
  • Feeling agitated, irritable, restless, or panicked
  • Feeling or looking tense
  • Concern about “losing control”
  • An uneasy sense that something bad is going to happen
  • Trembling or shaking
  • Headaches
  • Being cranky or angry with others
  • Trouble coping with tiredness, pain, nausea, and other symptoms
  • Problems sleeping or restless sleep

What you can do.

  • Talk about feelings and fears that you or family members may have; it’s okay to feel sad and frustrated
  • Decide together with your family or caregiver what things you can do to support each other
  • Do not blame yourself or others when you feel anxious and afraid. Instead, look at your thoughts, concerns, and beliefs about what has been going on in your life
  • Get help through in-person or online support groups
  • Think about asking your cancer team to refer you to a counselor or mental health professional who can work with you and your family
  • Use prayer, meditation, or other types of spiritual support
  • Try deep breathing and relaxation exercises several times a day. For example, close your eyes, breathe deeply, focus on each part of your body and relax it, starting with your toes and working up to your head. When you’re relaxed, imagine yourself in a pleasant place, such as a breezy beach or sunny meadow.
  • Cut down on caffeine (e.g. coffee, tea, energy drinks). It can make anxiety worse.
  • Talk with your cancer team about medicines for anxiety

Cancer Family Care Cincinnati OHC logoContact Cancer Family Care for support services.

Cancer Family Care provides counseling, education, and emotional support for cancer patients and their loved ones through the following:

The Center for Individual and Family Counseling helps people cope with the effects of cancer by providing emotional support and facilitating communication among family members.

Treehouse Children’s Services helps children better cope with cancer and death from cancer by offering in-school group and individual counseling

Waddell Family Healing Hands offers free wigs, oncology massage and healing touch to cancer patients at a reduced rate for caregivers.

For more information, please call 513-731-3346.


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